Sat. Apr 4th, 2020


The Menez Effect

Why i love dating guys in my university

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Your university years are labelled as “the best time of your life” for many reasons. You meet some of your closest friends, you don’t have your parents breathing down your neck, and you barely have any real responsibilities. You’re partying on the weekends and trying to learn something in between.

But when it comes to dating during these years, there is a clear split. Some people are exclusively looking for the casual hook ups while others are interested in finding someone special whom they can cuddle up with and watch ‘grownish.’

Dating in university ain’t a walk in the past. Girls have a hard decision to make; either they decide to date someone from their university, someone in a different campus or someone working. For us guys we don’t have the time to actually start chasing girls of different campuses. We will just look for chiqs from our university. It’s simpler and better.

It’s common to hear chiqs saying that they can’t date guys from our university, anytime i hear a girl say that i get a little bit disappointed. My article on ‘why i can’t date guys in my university’ did a lot of harm than i anticipated. Some chiqs took it too far, one girl refused to date a guy in our university just because of what she read. They were super compatible but a small piece of writing changed her mind.

There are some several angry dudes out there who got shot down by some chiqs because of that blog. So today I’m setting the record straight. Before you decide not to date a guy in your university, read this.

So on Saturday evening i asked all my friends(mostly chics from TUM) who have bfs in the same university what is so good about dating a guy in our university. I got lots of responses that actually made sense. Here are some of them.

[4/21, 9:28 PM] : you get the🍆🤤 anytime u want😂😂 I can see him anytime i want because ako karibu.
[4/21, 9:28 PM] : I’m going to be pretty real with you and say that one of the benefits of having my bf in the same university is that I know I’ll have sex anytime i want it.
[4/21, 9:29 PM] : 😂😂😂ofcos…then pia u perfect ur skill hapo🤭🤤🤤

[4/21, 9:33 PM] : I think pia unaget kujua weekpoints zake na mnashare alot 🤔
[4/21, 9:35 PM] : Alfu it becomes fun when u go have fun anytym u want☺ nothing is in our way.
[4/21, 9:38 PM] : Then mkikuwa near each other inareduce zile thoughts za someone is cheating🤔🤔tuseme inaincrease trust☺
[4/21, 9:41 PM] : Then akiwa near ukona more powers za kumcontrol than akiwa far🤔

[4/21, 9:42 PM] : Utakuwa na someone for company, mnaeza onana daily, ni easy kujua what kind of a person ur partner is na kama uko attentive the flaws pple hide ukiwa same uni utazijua coz pple can’t fake it forever

[4/21, 9:42 PM] : Kwanza unajua what type of guy unadate…..ju chuo huwezi kosa kujua. Before ata tuanze kudate nitakua already I’ve asked about him na nijue how he really is.

[4/21, 9:44 PM] : You’ll def know when he’s cheating
[4/21, 9:59 PM] : Mkiwa same campus kuna fewer insecurities juu unaweza clarify kila kitu and you don’t get to miss them much so itakuwa hard ucheat on them
Alafu for those who are sexually active hakuna dryspell😂😂

[4/21, 9:08 PM] : we spend a lot of time together😂😂
[4/21, 9:24 PM] : Your insecurities are less
[4/21, 9:25 PM] : It’ll be hard one of the parties kucheat
Alafu ile story ya they are all fuckboys c ukweli. Fuckboys wako but not that many.

[4/21, 9:26 PM] : 😀😀…I think u get to know evry step anatake somehow
[4/21, 9:26 PM] : Na yu have time for each othr☺
[4/21, 9:28 PM] : 😂😂you’ll not miss each not her that much….. Alafu when I’m feeling low he is always there to cheer me up.
[4/21, 9:47 PM] : Uuuum… get the psych to look forward to school cz you know you’ll be meeting bae later on.

[4/21, 9:47 PM] : vitu ndogondogo ka kuregister units, kuprint exam cards atanifanyia

[4/21, 9:50 PM] : kuna time i tried kudate msee anawork. I’m telling you it was the worst relationship I’ve ever been in.
[4/21, 10:05 PM] :We would only meet on Sunday or Saturday and when we met its was just for sex. 😂😂ilikua like an appointment. Sai I’m dating a guy in my uni and I’m having the best time. Nikitaka kumuona i don’t have to wait adi weekend😍😍😘

[4/22, 12:35 PM] : The company
Then unaeza mwangalia😂unajua chenye anafanya
If ako loyal utajua mapema ujisort.
Utamjua more
Hakuna kumiss then hutakua na fuckmates
[4/22, 1:03 PM] : Plus lunch uko sorted

Advantages of having a bf in your university outweigh the disadvantages. Yes there are several challenges in these relationships but they can always be sought out.

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The hardest part about dating someone in your university is time management. The day doesn’t start and end at the same time for everybody. Instead, people’s days begin when their first classes are scheduled, and they end after their last class or discussions.

There’s so much you can get involved in while you’re in campus. Having a schedule that complements that of your girlfriend’s is nearly impossible. There will even be days when too much work makes it difficult for you to see each other at all. But things, will get better as long as both people in the relationship try to make time for each other.

The reasons my friends gave are true and awesome. Here are some extra reasons.

Reasons for dating someone in your university.

1. Regular sex – we will dick you anytime you want.

When you’re in a relationship with someone in your university, you’re pretty much guaranteed a good fuck. you’re getting some dick at least a few times a week. When you want to fuck you just find your man. Even better, it’s safe sex (hopefully).

You know your partner’s sexual history so you’re greatly reducing your risk of getting an STI
What’s more, you know each other’s preferences and what makes each other tick. So your sexual chemistry is always on point.

2. Reduces your stress

University is stressful. You have exams and countless assignments. At the end of the day, you need to get rid of your stress if you’re going to keep going. Your friends don’t want to hear it because they’re just as stressed out as you about their own problems. They’ll just tell you to f*ck off. Rather than tearing your hair out, it’s nice to have someone you can vent to and talk out your problems. He will be there at all times when you want to relieve stress.

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3. We give you an excuse to stay in

There are some nights where you just don’t want to do anything. Maybe you had a full week of exams and you haven’t slept well in the past two days. Whatever it is, the thought of getting dressed up and socializing is utterly daunting.

If you’re in a relationship with someone in your university, you have the perfect excuse to stay at home: you’re spending the night with your significant other. Your friends may groan but there isn’t really anything they can say. All you have to say is “i don’t feel like clubbing tonight. I’m going to bae’s place ”. It’s totally legit. Every couple needs some alone time to foster their affection. This is better than listening to a guy who isn’t dating you nag you about going over for a sleepover.

4. We will give you constant company

Humans crave companionship. We all want to share our lives with someone else and there are plenty of cool experiences to be had in while in Mombasa or Nairobi or any city your university is located at. Between all the fast food joints, recreational parks, and clubs in this great city of ours, it’s always nice to have someone to go to them with. We get to do several things together.

Going out with your bf is incomparable to going out with your group of friends. With a bf in your university you have a lot of time and opportunity to do just that. Anything worth doing you will do.

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5. We have similar life experiences

When you date someone in your university your life experiences are the same. You can each relate to what you have been through. You can sit down and talk about that day cops invaded a club you were both in. You will always remember things that you both faced. You will make fun of each other how one of you couldn’t handle their liquor or For those in mombasa we have all experienced been robbed😂.

6. We have mutual friends

When you date someone in your university you will end up having mutual friends. Your friends will know his friends because chances of interactions are high. If you date someone who isn’t in your university the probability of you ever getting to know any his friends are close to none. You can judge a lot about someone from his friends.

7. chances of cheating are low.

Most of the time we are with you so we can’t really cheat and if we cheat you will find out about. The chances of cheating for a person in your uni are lower than that of a person in a different uni or who is working .

8. We are easily available.

If you have a bf in your university you can agree with me that its easy to meet up with him. All you have to do is ask where he is. Most girls know the timetable of their bfs. You know the days he is free and the days he has three classes. On the days he’s free he can’t lie to you that he was busy.

Don’t believe everything you’ve heard— not all university guys are only looking for casual sex and not all are players or fuckboys. Now the challenge is just spotting the ones who
do want a relationship!

University will open doors for you in the way of the dating scene, but it always helps to take things slowly and be wary. Stay grounded and always question people’s intentions, while making sure that your own are as clear as crystal.

Your future boyfriend is out there somewhere, whether he’s sitting next to you in class or isn’t even enrolled at your school. And you’ll find him, too… you just may have to kiss a few frogs first and have a lot of single and mingling fun.


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